I want to start my blog with a guide for all those men and women searching internet sites for love, here is a guide to the do and the don't of safe and genuine connections:-
There is a phenomenon known as...The Internet Lover.
Internet sites have sprung up in their dozens providing people with on line ease to connect with a possible romance. There are many reputable sites, many good and professional services but not one of these sites is ever truly able to verify the nature of the applicant. All they can do is process the information given them. Verifying that the applicant is honest, truthful, genuine...is quite frankly a gamble.
There really are people who make a success from Internet dating, they are savvy of the whiles and the scams, but there are also the innocent and naive and the gullible and their hearts are broken, often their bank accounts emptied and their spirits devolve into an ego-less and self worth - 'less' zero rating.
In the last three years I have personally had to deal with hundreds of broken hearts as a result of Internet love.
Only recently one of my friends contacted me, they had met someone over the Internet in a particular dating site. After a short period of time...they met physically. Oh it was love, it was a connection immediately. 'They' seemed to know so much about each other, felt such strength of attraction. He owned a business on the outskirts of Manchester, offered a cut price deal especially for her.....Last seen heading down the road with £1000 of her money in his pocket. Not seen since.
Last month one of my friends was convinced he had found love on the Internet. She was beautiful, gorgeous in fact. She lived on the outskirts of a busy city and had her own little business she was striving against much competition to make successful. She had a big family, was worried about her Mother. Many telephone calls took place then devastatingly he didn't hear from her for a whole weekend. Frantic he called me to ask what he should do, should he ring the local police, such was his worry. When she finally rang him in the early hours of Monday morning, she was in tears...could he lend her some money so she could pay for her Mother to have a serious operation. He sent her over £3000 and hasn't heard from her since. Funnily enough he can't find her business either and the telephone number he had...is no longer active.
I could recite the same storyline in a couple of dozen ways because the man / woman didn't really exist, the photograph was no more than a model posing for a commercial venture. A whole series of men and women, working almost in unison. Each storyline is crafted to suit the comments you have already posted on some website or other.
1)You have been tracked or traced by those comments. reading 'between the lines' they create a sympathy line.
2) If you mentioned how much you love your dad they will at sometime tell you how much they love 'their' dad and then the follow up will be the dad having an illness, a problem that means money is needed, frantic phone calls.
3) Played to within an inch of your oh so easily manipulated kind heart.
4) More locally within your own country/city/town is the same line being played in a slight variation of the theme.
5)I have lost count of the exotic man or woman (exotic by definition not from your own home county or your own home area/town, sometimes even not your country) who suddenly develops a need for train fare, flight ticket or car repair that costs and always for sums within your capability to render up.
Thieves, every last one of them. Plausible, seemingly honest and caring and considerate but they are not. They are cruel, using and conniving individuals who 'get away' with it because once again the victim keeps silent. they are afraid of public humiliation. When the penny finally drops that the have been 'had off' they die a multitude of shame ridden mental deaths and clam up.
Whole businesses run on scamming, from the 'soldier' who needs $40 to pay for a telephone link to the outside world 'you', to the poor soul who had an accident on the way to the airport to fly over to you ad infinitum.
LIARS CHEATS SCAMMERS !
Yet the person taken advantage of is not truly at fault. they have a kind heart, are caring and considerate, loving and giving people who are lonely. Perhaps shy of meeting people straight away the Internet has become a vehicle for them to open up, to be themselves. So we need guidelines for our unsuspecting and gentle loving people, here they are:-
DON'T:let anyone know your home address/home telephone number/home town.
you can be traced by an electoral role, a telephone tracing company.Even these days by uploading a picture from your camera !
DON'T:let anyone know your bank or the gods forbid, your bank details.
DON'T:never reveal any of your passwords even if it is an old password. My friend once told me she used her animals names and she only had two animals !!!!!
DON'T:let people know too much about your personal circumstances, especially vulnerable aspects like your parents or your health matters.
IF SOMEONE LOVES YOU THEY DON'T USE YOU
so if they are asking to come and see you....if they really, truly want to be with you...then they will find a way. They shouldn't be asking you for the flight fare, the train fare the loan of money to pay for anything...they should be saving up!
The permutations of the above scams (because that is what they are) run for hundreds of different themes, ways and means but always the person who is the Scammer is plausible, believable, so 'genuine' you just couldn't accept that this article could possibly be relevant to your particular beloved...so test the point...you have nothing to lose at all:-
IF THEY REALLY DO LOVE YOU....and they have asked for money...tell them your broke!
and if it is true love ? it won't matter at all...and if, after all they are a Scammer...then you won't hear from them again...now will you.
Silver, your friendly little Love Guide
